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Welcome to
Monarch For Love!
Where weary hearts remember love is still a choice.
Love feels harder than we were promised it would be.
No one walks down the aisle planning for distance, resentment, or the quiet ache of feeling unseen. And yet, so many good women find themselves in good marriages wondering:
Why do I feel unloved?
Here’s the truth no one says out loud:
Just because you don’t feel loved doesn’t mean you are not loved.
Sometimes love isn’t absent.
Sometimes it’s misunderstood.
After my second divorce, I realized something I wish someone had told me when I was 23.
Love is not enough to sustain a marriage.
That realization didn’t make me cynical.
It made me curious.
I stopped blaming love.
I stopped asking what was wrong with my husband.
I started asking what no one had taught us about love.
We were raised to chase the feeling of love.
We were never taught the skills that sustain love.
No one taught us how to regulate emotion before reacting.
How to repair after conflict.
How to create emotional safety.
How to distinguish between temporary hurt and permanent incompatibility.
Love isn’t failing us.
Our understanding of love is.
This is where Love Literacy begins.
Love Literacy is the missing education most of us never received.
It’s the ability to understand what love actually requires beyond chemistry and good intentions.
It’s emotional regulation.
Conflict repair.
Clear communication.
Relational responsibility.
Intentional choice.
Skills make love last.
When you learn the skills, the marriage shifts.
Not because your partner becomes perfect.
But because you stop making permanent decisions from temporary pain.
Why Monarch For Love?
Nobody gets married believing they will get divorced or that they will ever feel taken for granted, unappreciated, or unloved. After a few short years, life happens - stress, miscommunication, obligations, family demands, and busy schedules can pull us apart, leading to inevitable challenges and the potential for disillusionment and resentment.
But it's never too late to reconnect, rebuild, and thrive in your marriage! Michelle Hays, Marriage Coaach, Author, and Host of the Monarch for Love Podcast, has experienced the highs and lows of marriage firsthand. With deep compassion and understanding, she serves couples by guiding them through love, relationships, and everything in between - empowering them to create a stronger, more fulfilling connection.
Your Journey To Love Starts Here.
Choose The Path That Fits Yours Needs.
Transformative, personalized sessions to address your unique challenges and goals.
Join a supportive group for bi-weekly calls, expert resources, and uplifting conversations.
Discover empowering tools that enable you to effectively confront specific challenges—on your own terms and timeline.
Message From Michelle
Let me ask you a question… do you feel hopeful and are you coachable?
If you answered yes, then let’s get on a Breakthrough Call and explore how we can begin creating the marriage you want and deserve together!
All marriages have challenges – mine, yours and everyone else’s. It is how we respond to our challenges that ultimately defines our story.
You’re not alone on this journey; with intention and grace, your relationship can thrive.
If you desire something different in your marriage, you must make different choices. While love is certainly a feeling and an emotion, love alone – without a conscious decision – is incomplete. Why is that? Because feelings and emotions can be fleeting. Does that make sense? Love is a commitment to choose yourself, your partner, and your marriage.
Love is a decision.
What will you choose? Choose wisely. Choose love.
Your Marriage, Your Choice.
Every great marriage begins with powerful decisions. By seeking a deeper connection, personal growth, or guidance to navigate challenges, you are already taking the first step toward transformation.
Action is essential; without it, unresolved issues can breed frustration, resentment unhappiness, and possibly divorce.
Don't give up on your marriage. Closing the gap between the marriage you want and the marriage you have is far less agonizing and stressful than getting divorced will ever be.
The decisions you are making now will create the foundation of the marriage you will have in the future. What will you choose?
Let's work together! I will empower you, and support you to make the necessary changes that will transform your marriage and the quality of your life.
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This is your one-stop space to be inspired, supported, and empowered.
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“I’m honored to share my story in Awakened Hearts,” said Michelle Hays. “For most of my life, I thought I had to prove myself to be worthy of love. My awakening came in the quiet realization that love doesn’t need performance — it needs presence. It’s a decision we make again and again. I hope my story whispers to anyone who's ever questioned their worth: you are not alone, and you are already enough.”
